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Below is an article and video from inc.com on what the 1 thing is that separates achievers from dreamers as well as key takeaways.
- Most people never get experiences because they’ve never asked.
- Most people never pick up the phone and call. Most people never ask. That’s what sometimes separates those who do things from those who just dream about them.
- You have to act. And you have to be willing to fail. If you’re afraid of failing, you won’t get very far.
- When you say “Can you help me”, you are:
- Showing respect – implying the person knows more about this, can do what I can’t, has the expertise/talent that I don’t – and you recognize that.
- Showing trust – you show vulnerability/weakness and trust the other person with that.
- Showing you’re willing to listen – tell me what you think I should do, not what you think I want to hear.
- You get the help you need by showing you respect and trust others.
- Those you ask for help gains a sense of satisfaction and pride that comes from being shown the respect and trust they deserve.
- You then get to say 2 powerful words – Thank you.
22 Years Ago, Steve Jobs Said 1 Thing Separates People Who Achieve From Those Who Only Dream
While this sentence is one you might not expect from Steve Jobs, it is one that all of us can — and should — say.
By Jeff Haden Contributing editor, Inc.
Steve Jobs set extremely high expectations. He challenged other people to work harder, work longer, and do more — sometimes more than they thought was possible.
Jobs was … well, let’s just say that Steve Jobs was demanding.
But he also believed in the power of asking.
I’ve never found anybody that didn’t want to help me [Jobs says in the video below] if I asked them for help … I called up Bill Hewlett when I was 12 years old. “Hi, I’m Steve Jobs. I’m 12 years old. I’m a student in high school. I want to build a frequency counter, and I was wondering if you have any spare parts I could have.” He laughed, and he gave me the spare parts, and he gave me a job that summer at Hewlett-Packard … and I was in heaven.
I’ve never found anyone who said no or hung up the phone when I called. I just asked. And when people ask me, I try to be responsive, to pay that debt of gratitude back.
Most people never pick up the phone and call. Most people never ask, and that’s what separates, sometimes, the people who do things from the people who just dream about them.
Granted, it’s often not easy to ask for help. Asking can make you feel insecure. Asking can make you feel vulnerable.
But oddly enough, that’s a good thing.
When you ask for help, without adding qualifiers or image enhancers, when you just say, “Can you help me?” several powerful things happen, especially for the other person.
You show respect. Without actually saying it, you’ve said, “You know more than I do.” You’ve said, “You can do what I can’t.” You’ve said, “You have experience [or talents or something] that I don’t have.” You’ve said, “I respect you.”
You show trust. You show vulnerability, you admit to weakness, and you implicitly show that you trust the other person with that knowledge.
You show you’re willing to listen. You’ve said, “You don’t have to tell me what you think I want to hear; tell me what you think I should do.”
By showing you respect and trust other people, and by giving them the latitude to freely share their expertise or knowledge, you don’t just get the help you think you want.
You might also get the help you really need.
You get more — a lot more.
And so do other people, because they gain a true sense of satisfaction and pride that comes from being shown the respect and trust they — and everyone — deserve. Plus, you make it easier for them to ask you for help when they need it. You’ve shown it’s OK to express vulnerability, to admit a weakness, and to know when you need help.
And then, best of all, you get to say two more incredibly powerful words:
And you get to truly mean them.
And if that’s not enough to convince you: If a guy like Steve Jobs was willing to ask for help, shouldn’t we?